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Sex, Love, and Bhakti (Audio)
Date: Sat Mar 20, 2004 7:07pm
It is recommended you read from the beginning of this tantra yoga archive,
as previous lessons are prerequisite to this one. The first lesson is, "What
is tantra yoga?"
Everyone knows that sex is about hormones.
There is the old joke that, "Teenagers are all hormones." Maybe that applies
to many of us adults too. The more hormonal vitality we have, the greater
our sexual status, and self image. When the juices are flowing we feel more
It is all about prana, you know. Prana is vitality, the life
force that flows inside us. It is what is behind all those hormones. Through
yoga we influence our prana by influencing our body chemistry, and vise
versa. We think according to a certain procedure and we become physically
and mentally still inside, and inner silence expands. We become empty
self-contained awareness. That is meditation. We breathe a certain way and
the energies flowing in our body are enlivened in noticeable ways. That is
pranayama. We make love a certain way, or engage in certain types of solo
stimulation of sexual energy, and our inner experiences are dramatically
expanded into vast inner flights of ecstatic euphoria. Then we are both
empty and euphoric at the same time. The joining of these two makes divine
love - a self-fulfilling flow that needs no object. It just is.
great kriya yogi, Lahiri Mahasaya, said:
"My worship is of a very
strange kind. Holy water is not required. No special utensils are necessary.
Even flowers are redundant. In this worship all gods have disappeared, and
emptiness has merged with euphoria."
So, ultimately, human spiritual
transformation is not about external objects or rituals. It is about our
inner processes, our inner awareness (emptiness) and our ecstasy (euphoria).
When these two merge, all that is left is divine love flowing out from an
endless inner reservoir. It is its own source. It exists for no object, yet
serves all. It is its own fulfillment, which is the common good. Divine love
is hormones taken to their highest level of functioning in the human being.
But what of ordinary love, the kind most of us feel at some point in
our life? The kind we feel in our hearts and in our loins. How do we expand
from that to divine love? It is in choosing a higher manifestation of our
energy, choosing a higher level of functioning of hormones, and making the
journey of transformation using yogic knowledge.
When we become
sexually aroused, our hormones are stimulated into high gear. We feel
euphoric. We feel attracted. Attracted to what? Something. Someone. This
powerful euphoric attraction needs an object. We lose our mind when this
happens. The emotions take over. Only the object matters.
knows no reason."
What is this ordinary love? It is an extreme flow
of hormones. We are drugged from within. It fills us with devotion for the
object of our affection, at least for a time. At least until the hormones
settle down. Then what? Then "the honeymoon is over," and we move into a
different phase of the process, a less intense one.
between ordinary love and divine love is that the intensity in divine love
never stops. The honeymoon never ends. It never goes away. It becomes more,
and more, and more. Divine romance is like falling into an endless abyss of
love. As we fall, it flows out of us to everyone around us. In divine love
we become a channel between the infinite and the world.
divine romance, is as much about sex as ordinary human romance is. Divine
love is about internal sex, and it never ends. Ordinary love is about
external sex, and loses its intensity in time. Ordinary lovers cry and moan
in ecstasy for a few minutes or hours. Lovers of the divine cry and moan in
ecstasy for decades.
If you read the poems of Rumi and St. John of
the Cross (see the links section), you will see that these sages had
passionate relationships with the divine. Intensely romantic relationships
in terms of their own "ishta," their chosen ideal. As Lahiri Mahasaya points
out, even the ideals are eventually overshadowed by the reality of the inner
transformation, which is the merging of inner silence with inner ecstasy, a
neuro-chemical process occurring inside us.
Ah, the divine romance!
We have to put it in some sort of language. We describe it with metaphors,
deities, the language of our culture. After all the analysis and all the
yoga, when divine love bubbles up there can only be poetry, and maybe not
It's like that in tantric sexual relations also. The
hormones are cultivated higher and higher. Our lover is the divine before
us, inside us, enveloping us. If we have used the method of bhakti, we know
all our desire, all our passion, all our hormones are going for that high
purpose in us. Nothing matters but that. Our ordinary love will be morphing
to divine love in every minute. Love objects become spiritual objects, and
then melt inside us. Our body, our lover, and everyone we see are
expressions of God, and that divine lovemaking that dissolves
separations. We may seem crazy to ordinary people when we are in this state
of divine passion.
Crazy or not, if we are prudent we will keep our
love going higher with sitting practices when we are not in tantric sexual
relations. This we can do every day. Then the romance never stops. It creeps
into our everyday living, flowing out of us as waves of beautiful bliss.
Daily practices are important for this. Eventually it becomes
self-sustaining. The nervous system wants to rise to this divine state. It
asks us to do yoga by calling us quietly from deep inside our heart. As the
nervous system opens in yoga it takes over, and there is no stopping. Then
we are along for the ride.
So, if you are in love, in lovemaking, or
even just contemplating love, keep something in mind. Your love has a great
destiny far beyond the attachments and pleasures of the moment. You don't
have to go anywhere to find your destiny. You don't have to renounce your
family, your career, or anything. You only have to realize that your desire
and your passion can be pointed higher.
alone sets things in motion. Can you feel it moving inside you now? A
quickening of devotion. A magical expectancy stirring deep inside. Favor
that. Favor it as you feel your love flowing. Favor it as you join with your
beloved in the bed. Feel it as you use the methods that will cultivate the
divine energies higher in your lover and yourself. Feel it as you do your
daily sitting practices. Rise high in divine love. You have the means.
The guru is in you.
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