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Lesson 97 -
Tantra - Help for Sex Maniacs and Ordinary Lovers (Audio)
Date: Tue Jan 27, 2004 3:57pm
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Q: I am sort of a sex maniac. I can't seem to get enough of it. My wife
takes every opportunity to encourage me, so she must be one too. Needless to
say, we have a very active sex life. In the past year we have gotten
interested in Tantra and Yoga, but we have not been able to get our sex
under control. We don't even know if we are supposed to get it under
control. It is beginning to concern me that I am draining myself of vitality
every day. I know it can't go on like that forever if I hope to achieve
anything spiritually. You have given many practical methods for Yoga and we
are very grateful, but we are still hooked on sex. What do you suggest?
A: If your desire is strong to bring your active sex life into the realm of
yoga, much can be done using the methods of tantra. It will not necessarily
mean curtailing your sex life. That can go on naturally as before. It will
mean developing some discipline in the form of specific techniques you can
use during sex, and these you can practice together. There are other
techniques you can practice alone. Then you will find sex gradually becoming
part of the larger picture of your overall yoga practices.
In most situations, it is the man who holds the keys to tantra in sexual
relations, because it is he who experiences the greatest loss of prana, and
it is he who usually determines the duration of the sex act. No matter how
much a woman may long for tantric unions, it is the man who must first
facilitate them. Then it can become heaven for both the man and woman.
Once a man becomes committed to manage the loss of prana, and thereby
lengthening the duration of sexual union, a new mode of lovemaking will
evolve that is in the direction of yoga. Then sex can become a strong
facilitator of the union of the masculine and feminine energies within us,
along the same lines as mulabandha and siddhasana.
Tantric sex, while not at the heart of advanced yoga practices, is an
important skill to develop, especially if we are inclined to have sex often.
It is an extension of the principles of siddhasana, really, where we are
cultivating sexual energy upward into our nervous system as it is being
gradually being purified using the full range of advanced yoga practices.
The sexual methods of tantra we will discuss are to support the overall
goals of the advanced yoga practices we have been discussing in these
lessons, without putting any sort of draconian limits on our freedom to make
love whenever we like. Applying and gradually mastering the sexual methods
of tantra frees us from the negative stigmas that sometimes get attached to
sex. Sex becomes another aspect of our spiritual anatomy that we have the
means to nudge toward the higher purpose of our enlightenment. Sexual
relations become an aid to our spiritual evolution rather than remaining an
obstacle. At the same time, we gradually come to enjoy sex in ways we may
have never imagined. Good tantra is very liberating all the way around.
To honor Yahoo's requirements regarding the posting of sexual content,
we will continue the tantra discussion in a separate adults-only group that
has been created for this purpose. It is the same format as this group,
except it is for adults only.
You can join the AdvancedYogaPractices_Tantra group in about a minute and
have immediate access to the lessons there by going to this link:
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above link. After that, if necessary, copy paste the link into your open
browser, and you will be in.
So, for those of you who are interested, the rest of the tantra discussion
will be posted over there, including any questions and answers that come up
pertaining to tantric sexual methods and experiences. A couple of lessons
have been posted already, with more to come. Because the tantra group will
be of limited scope, it is not expected to have a large number of lessons.
It will cover only those matters relating to tantra that are best discussed
in an adults-only environment. It is the "tantra group," while this
discussion here is the "main group."
The lessons here in the main group will continue along the lines that have
been indicated. As you know, there is much more to cover on advanced yoga
practices, and we will carry on here. It is expected that the main body of
these lessons will be completed by mid year.
The guru is in you.
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