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crazymandrew
USA
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 Posted - Jul 24 2013 : 05:24:33 AM
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I'm having trouble with what perceptions (fetishes?) help sexual arousal while looking at the female body. Even in person. Not just internet.
I've had this problem for years. I find the female body to be nice but not sexual. I don't get it?
I think my sex drive is high enough. I'm not 100% sure.
I think this is the one thing blocking me from getting tantric going. Even using my imagination doesn't work as well for arousal as it used to.
The best perception that has worked for me is focusing on opposite nature of females. But even that isn't super reliable. |
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Mykal K
Germany
267 Posts |
Posted - Jul 24 2013 : 2:12:22 PM
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For me the only thing that feels right is love.
It never fails to arouse  |
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AumNaturel
Canada
687 Posts |
Posted - Jul 24 2013 : 9:58:49 PM
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I second Mykal's observation.
It might sound strange, but in the right moment it is so natural.
This isn't to say it applies to everyone, because somehow I doubt it. Just see if it might be what's missing to you. |
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crazymandrew
USA
121 Posts |
Posted - Jul 28 2013 : 07:26:11 AM
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Thinking of love does seem to connect me with sexual feels I have gotten disconnected from. It seems to hit spiritual sexual feels faster too. Thanks guys.
I'm still kinda pissed off about this. I feel like someone put a mental block on the sex part of my brain. Hopefully I can practice and get rid of it. |
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Radharani
USA
843 Posts |
Posted - Jul 31 2013 : 11:59:47 PM
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Originally posted by crazymandrew
I'm having trouble with what perceptions (fetishes?) help sexual arousal while looking at the female body. Even in person. Not just internet.
I've had this problem for years. I find the female body to be nice but not sexual. I don't get it?
I think my sex drive is high enough. I'm not 100% sure.
I think this is the one thing blocking me from getting tantric going. Even using my imagination doesn't work as well for arousal as it used to.
The best perception that has worked for me is focusing on opposite nature of females. But even that isn't super reliable.
Dear Crazymandrew,
If I'm understanding you correctly, your complaint seems to be that lack of arousal is "blocking you from getting tantric going."
The purpose of tantric sex, though, is to employ your sexual activity and energies to benefit your yoga practice. It's not necessary in and of itself. So, if sexual arousal/activity is not already happening, there is no need for tantra.
Unless, of course, you are in a relationship and your partner wants to have sex and you are trying to satisfy her and also incorporate the sexual activity into your yoga practice - in that case tantra can be useful and something nice to share.
But, if that is the situation, then your lack of arousal is a separate issue from your desire to "get tantra going." As others have pointed out, there is an emotional dimension to it also.
If you are not in a relationship then personally I wouldn't even worry about doing tantra if the sexual motivation is not happening. I would just focus on the seated practices and/or asana.
I hope that is helpful. Please clarify in case I am misunderstanding you.  |
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velikod
Bulgaria
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Posted - Sep 13 2013 : 10:06:58 AM
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Hello, crazymandrew.
I advise you to stop watching porn (if you do) and decrease masturbation (if you do).
Do a prayer/meditation for clearing mass-media effects on what is sexuality because what is accepted as normal in movies, books and in our mass-conciousness is so disturbed.
Good luck |
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crazymandrew
USA
121 Posts |
Posted - Sep 19 2013 : 06:41:47 AM
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Thanks for all the responses.
I'm actually starting to think it's just my sex drive after all. I recently discovered you can have high testosterone and still have a low sex drive if your estrogens are too high. I have to reason to believe my estrogens are too high. |
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velikod
Bulgaria
4 Posts |
Posted - Sep 19 2013 : 10:13:06 AM
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| crazymandrew, are you bisexual? |
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Etherfish
USA
3615 Posts |
Posted - Sep 19 2013 : 11:21:28 PM
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| I think you are letting your brain interfere too much, and force something that is not natural. Sexual feeling comes from the body, and the less participation from the thinking brain, the better. |
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crazymandrew
USA
121 Posts |
Posted - Sep 21 2013 : 04:42:02 AM
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Originally posted by Etherfish
I think you are letting your brain interfere too much, and force something that is not natural. Sexual feeling comes from the body, and the less participation from the thinking brain, the better.
This is the best advise I've gotten so far, thanks. Sometimes concentrating to hard is a type of over-thinking, which I was doing. It does seem to come more from the body. Or it even comes out of silence in a way.
I still wanna try Asian Ginseng as an aphrodisiac. It's supposed to immediately increase sex drive because it's a stimulant. Dopamine, chi and other factors. |
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Etherfish
USA
3615 Posts |
Posted - Sep 21 2013 : 10:21:17 AM
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| If you have a girlfriend or equivalent, try just being close with them without any intention of sex. Just holding, massaging, touching, talking, appreciating. Sometimes this takes sex into a whole different world, instead of a goal, it is an addition to other things, and can be much better this way. |
Edited by - Etherfish on Sep 21 2013 10:22:19 AM |
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I'm having trouble with sexual perceptions.
