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Dear yogani,

Thank you….
For the wonderful teachings generously shared..
For your presence..

I am writing you hoping for advice and guidance on the practice of brahmarcharya (while asleep).

I am a 29 year old male practicing yoga and meditation since 4 years. In the last year the main practices included DM (“Shree Shree I am I am”; twice a day), Tantric lovemaking with my girlfriend (being present and applying the holdback method), and Jnana Yoga (self-study and reading of spiritual scriptures). With other practices (such as asanas, Samyama and SB) I am less regular for reasons of self-pacing (avoiding becoming too ungrounded and irritable with much energy in Vishuddha chakra; especially SB or any type of breathing technique tends to bring some difficulties in normal breathing during daily activities with excessive yawning).

While some major improvements have occurred during Tantric lovemaking (shared feelings of connection, expansion of the heart, prolonged peacefulness and no ejaculations anymore while making love with my girlfriend), another -not so much talked about- event is occurring and re-occuring: ejaculations during the night about once in two weeks in the last 4 months (and sometimes more often in the past; the nocturnal ejaculations started to occur more regulary about one and a half year ago after attending teachings at a Tantra school and trying to maintain strict brahmacharya).

I understand as it is presented above it is nothing to worry about, yet I feel used and disappointed when waking up after such “wet” dream. The reason not so much being the ejaculation itself but my being unaware of what is really happening (not knowing that I’m dreaming and feeling somehow betrayed after waking up). Particularly owing to the contents of the dream and the manner in which the ejaculation was brought about: It seems as though something outside of myself is seducing me into something I do not wish to participate in. The scenery which appears during or after the release is one that is normally unappealing and unfamiliar.

I was told before about entities that act as “energy suckers” and causing releases during the night. This always comes to my mind after ejaculating in the night.

I am considering ejaculating at will during lovemaking with my partner to avoid such nocturnal happenings.


Please kindly share with me your feeling and advice..

Thank you for taking the time to read and respond..

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Yes, I think you are wise to "self-pace" your tantra by going back to normal lovemaking for a while, until things sort themselves out with nighttime ejaculations, etc.

Better to let your daily meditation be the priority, as this will gradually build up more abiding inner silence, which will stabilize everything else, and also move your sense of self more into stillness (witness), beyond any sort of negative energies that are lurking around. They cannot touch you in stillness, and you will also be giving them less energy with your personal attention. All such energies rely on our energy for their existence, so cultivating pure bliss consciousness and keeping active in normal living (stillness in action) will deprive and remove such influences.

It should also be added that artificially enforced strict brahmacharya (celibate form of it), without corresponding cultivation of abiding inner silence can lead to all sorts of distortions and problems.

If you are comfortable doing so, it would be good to bring these question up in the AYP support forums where many can help, and many more can benefit from the open discussion.

Thank you, and all the best on your continuing path!

The guru is in you.

Yogani

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