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Konchok Ösel Dorje
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 Posted - Jul 20 2009 : 8:20:49 PM
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I bow the Guru. These comments are for the men with experience in stillness.
It helps one's sexual sadhana if one gains a distance from ordinary sex. One's usual habits during sex will occlude the visionary experience. Remain abstinent for at least one week, and during that week, try to practice meditation intensely and cultivate a deep stillness within. It might help to practice visualizing your body as some exalted body of a deity, like Shiva or Kali until you have a very clear vision that you are not your body, your body is Shiva. You should have cultivated enough stillness and detachment, that at first, the sexual experience feels kind of numb. Like chewing wax.
Based on that stillness, one should engage in sexual practice. One must stay pre-orgasmic, as Yogani says, and I would say very pre-pre-orgasmic. One should avoid the pre-orgasmic twitches that bring on the ordinary habitual urge to cum. One should probably avoid ordinary habits about sex too, like looking at porn or whatever usually stimulates your urge to cum. That is the first point. Be not only pre-orgasmic, but very pre-orgasmic, be way in front of the urge to cum. Be at a line that straddles erection and limpness. Just enough to infuse sexual bliss into the feeling of stillness.
The second point is to practice insight. One does this by being fully at ease and confident that this stillness infused with blissfulness is the best state of all. Give up any desire for a better state. Give up expecting an orgasmic future. Give up clinging to a great orgasmic memory. Just be in that blissful stillness, expecting and missing nothing. One should not feel like this body is the source of pleasure. One should not feel like the body is there or matters at all. The mind that renounces all states and is detached from the body is required for progress during sexual sadhana.
At first engage in the motions of sex for a minute or two, then be still and look into the blissful stillness; see deeply into the ocean of your own being. With practice, you can gain some rhythm and detachment so that one can continue in an uncontrived way, flowing naturally with the motion of the bodies and the stillness and deep insight within.
Gain experience controlling where in your body you feel the sexual bliss. You should be able to will the feeling from the sexual organs into the belly, the heart, the throat or the head, at will. You must gain experience also with spreading the energy throughout your body evenly. This is done by visualizing it while feeling and believing it to be so without hoping or worrying about it.
As you continue in this way without hope of anything, the winds naturally dissolve in the shushumna, leading to deep seeing and a sense of detachment from the physical body. Try to feel the blissful energy shoot up from the root to the crown. Bring down the energy into the center of the body; then, spread it all around evenly.
Just view within that evenness of blissful stillness. Don't be afraid of the experience of lights that might feel like feinting briefly. Maintain your presence of mind and be at ease. Wonderful experiences of insight are available this way. |
Edited by - Konchok Ösel Dorje on Jul 20 2009 8:23:38 PM |
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JDas
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Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 07:21:49 AM
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