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1097 From: "manchalas80" <manchalas80@yahoo.com>
Date: Thu Jun 23, 2005 9:25pm
Subject: is marriage predestined? manchalas80
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Is it true that who we will marry is written down? I am currently in
india and have been trying hard to get married. In india it is
arranged marriages that are common. I have been trying hard to get
married since the past 2-3 months but am not able to succeed. With one
girl it almost came till engagement (the ring ceremony before marriage
confirming the marriage) and got cancelled there.
I started feeling probably marriages are written down in our destiny
before we are born.
What do you guys think on this?
1098 From: victor yj <vic@yahoo.com>
Date: Thu Jun 23, 2005 11:29pm
Subject: Re: is marriage predestined? vic
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I don't know where it would be written? perhaps in some cosmic server somewhere?
I don't know about India and I have been married twice so don't know if that is good or bad but.....
I don't believe in making it a goal to get married and then trying to find someone to fill that goal. I beleive that it is about the relationship between two people first, to feel how they are together and if there is spark and chemistry. Then to see if you have similar goals. For me the only reason i would suggest marriage is if you want children. Otherwise at least here in the states you can have a wonderful relationship without needing to marry. then after some time of being together you can choose to marry. that is how I see it. Also you are perhaps not ready deep inside for marriage yet, perhaps you want sex or companionship but may not be ready for family life and women can sense it. I would not even THINK about marriage until you have a clear idea of how you would raise a family, financially and emotionally. Otherwise marriage is just a bondage of suffering. get your money and career in order first. date some women, enjoy sex, play. Then get married when you are truly ready.
When you are truly ready it will be easy.
manchalas80 <manchalas80@yahoo.com> wrote:
Is it true that who we will marry is written down? I am currently in
india and have been trying hard to get married. In india it is
arranged marriages that are common. I have been trying hard to get
married since the past 2-3 months but am not able to succeed. With one
girl it almost came till engagement (the ring ceremony before marriage
confirming the marriage) and got cancelled there.
I started feeling probably marriages are written down in our destiny
before we are born.
What do you guys think on this?
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1100 From: SHANTA SAWH <shantasawh@yahoo.ca>
Date: Fri Jun 24, 2005 0:17pm
Subject: Re: is marriage predestined? shantasawh
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Hi Guys,
I am interested on this topic becos I myself am at a loss for words on this matter.
I am married for a long time --37-yrs now, WE have three grown children, I have been getting concerned about my daughters meeting good parteners for marriage. So far nothing is in the horison. WE are a very strong family with good background . I am puzzled.
Let's talk some more,since everything is in place for marriage, a good secure job, beautiful, good family values and tradition and ready for marriage.What next is needed, and I am not the only one in this position. Why is this so?
I think we have to shift our focus alittle and see how to help our daughters see that there is securit in a successful marriage if they work at it.
Like to hear from you all.
Shanta
victor yj <vic@yahoo.com> wrote:
I don't know where it would be written? perhaps in some cosmic server somewhere?
I don't know about India and I have been married twice so don't know if that is good or bad but.....
I don't believe in making it a goal to get married and then trying to find someone to fill that goal. I beleive that it is about the relationship between two people first, to feel how they are together and if there is spark and chemistry. Then to see if you have similar goals. For me the only reason i would suggest marriage is if you want children. Otherwise at least here in the states you can have a wonderful relationship without needing to marry. then after some time of being together you can choose to marry. that is how I see it. Also you are perhaps not ready deep inside for marriage yet, perhaps you want sex or companionship but may not be ready for family life and women can sense it. I would not even THINK about marriage until you have a clear idea of how you would raise a family, financially and emotionally. Otherwise marriage is just a bondage of suffering. get your money and career in order first. date some women, enjoy sex, play. Then get married when you are truly ready.
When you are truly ready it will be easy.
manchalas80 wrote:
Is it true that who we will marry is written down? I am currently in
india and have been trying hard to get married. In india it is
arranged marriages that are common. I have been trying hard to get
married since the past 2-3 months but am not able to succeed. With one
girl it almost came till engagement (the ring ceremony before marriage
confirming the marriage) and got cancelled there.
I started feeling probably marriages are written down in our destiny
before we are born.
What do you guys think on this?
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1102 From: "Paula Youmans" <paula@webboise.com>
Date: Fri Jun 24, 2005 4:18pm
Subject: RE: is marriage predestined? paula_youmans
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Hi Shanta,
Do you only have Daughters or are they the only ones you are concerned
about? Why is not being married a concern at all?
I'm not sure if this is a cultural difference, but I noticed love is nowhere
on your list.I see good job, good family values .everything but love.
Personally, I stay with someone because I love them..my wonderful family
instilled enough values and confidence that I thankfully don't require other
people to keep me secure.
Are you daughters not whole? Are they not enough, all on their own? In your
mind, are they not secure without a husband?
Why do you need them to get married so badly?
What is a good partner for marriage and why have you taken this upon
yourself to decide for you daughters?
I think I am more puzzled then you are.
Paula
Hi Guys,
I am interested on this topic becos I myself am at a loss for words on this
matter.
I am married for a long time --37-yrs now, WE have three grown children, I
have been getting concerned about my daughters meeting good parteners for
marriage. So far nothing is in the horison. WE are a very strong family with
good background . I am puzzled.
Let's talk some more,since everything is in place for marriage, a good
secure job, beautiful, good family values and tradition and ready for
marriage.What next is needed, and I am not the only one in this position.
Why is this so?
I think we have to shift our focus alittle and see how to help our daughters
see that there is securit in a successful marriage if they work at it.
Like to hear from you all.
Shanta
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1099 From: "Melissa" <mm7810@gmail.com>
Date: Fri Jun 24, 2005 0:30pm
Subject: Re: is marriage predestined? mm78102002
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Hi -
I think in *some* instances it is predestined, whereas for the
majority of us, it is a choice. That is where free will comes
in to play. Life is about choices and we can make good choices
or bad choices. This will partially determine where we end up
spiritually when this life is over. I am not saying marriage is
good or bad; it depends on the person and circumstances. I would
focus on developing yourself as a person first, then worry about
marriage. Well, there's my two cents - hope that helps! ;-)
Melissa
--- In AYPforum@yahoogroups.com, "manchalas80" <manchalas80@y...>
wrote:
> Is it true that who we will marry is written down? I am currently in
> india and have been trying hard to get married. In india it is
> arranged marriages that are common. I have been trying hard to get
> married since the past 2-3 months but am not able to succeed. With
one
> girl it almost came till engagement (the ring ceremony before
marriage
> confirming the marriage) and got cancelled there.
>
> I started feeling probably marriages are written down in our destiny
> before we are born.
>
> What do you guys think on this?
1114 From: Isolde Manasa <babalon_v@yahoo.co.uk>
Date: Sat Jun 25, 2005 11:26pm
Subject: Re: is marriage predestined? babalon_v
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Why don't you consult an astrologer in India? Jyotish
is absolutely amazing in its accuracy. I have had
Indian astrologers tell me absolutely accurate things
about myself that they couldn't possibly have been
guessing at! It is no use trying to push the marriage
thing if it isn't time yet. The astrologer can tell
you when would be an auspicious time for it, and
whether your husband is a good match.
Lilith M.
--- manchalas80 <manchalas80@yahoo.com> wrote:
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Is it true that who we will marry is written down? I
am currently in
india and have been trying hard to get married. In
india it is
arranged marriages that are common. I have been trying
hard to get
married since the past 2-3 months but am not able to
succeed. With one
girl it almost came till engagement (the ring ceremony
before marriage
confirming the marriage) and got cancelled there.
I started feeling probably marriages are written down
in our destiny
before we are born.
What do you guys think on this?
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