my first post. I too am in a similar situation and would like to pass on some things that have helped and hurt as I realize my "stuff". I have always been active for others to remove my own hurt, and here I thought I was soooo balanced! Being quiet for me has been tremendous... a sanctuary where I haven't had one before. I blamed my man for not being that, he couldn't be... remembering that I am loved is another... in this beautiful space we share, someone loves me for being here...and I don't know who they are but I am grateful for their energy and love...this creates more loving energy that I can pass on to someone else who needed it like I did. And the cycle continues. much love to you, you are never alone, may deep peace warm you.