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Here is one of the most important secrets you will ever learn that will help you discover how to Make Love for as Long as You Choose and stop premature ejaculation.
Sexually, men face two major difficulties throughout their lives. The first is, as a young, virile teenager, being able to last long enough to satisfy a woman, or even satisfy yourself. After weeks of anticipation, it is often all over in a few minutes. Do you remember those times? Or are you still in the position of sometimes not lasting as long as you would like? Premature ejaculation is an embarrassment for a man of any age. Not a happy memory.

Not a happy memory for a married man either, especially if your wife does not want to make love as much as you do. When she does, you ejaculate too soon and she is left feeling frustrated and sometimes angry. Even though she might not say so or show it, she feels it. Not good times for a man of any age. I would rate ejaculating before the woman wants to, high on any man's private list of embarrassing times.

Be honest about this. If premature ejaculation is a problem sometimes and you want to do something about it, the first step is to acknowledge it to yourself. Remember, you are not the only man who faces this difficulty.

The second major difficulty is: at some stage in your later years, you will no longer come too soon, but you won't come at all. You won't be able to get an erection or if you do, it certainly won't stand up as straight and hard as it used to. Very often your woman's sexual energy has increased because most women reach their sexual prime when they are over forty. There is the opportunity for lovemaking, but you can't do anything about it because your sexual energy is not as strong. If you do get an erection and ejaculate, instead of the mind blowing explosion it used to be, it barely trickles out. It's more like a squeak than a roar. If you haven't experienced this yet, I guarantee that at some stage it will happen.

However there is something you can do about it, as it is not necessarily a part of ageing. These major difficulties can be overcome through learning the essential techniques of ejaculation control.

First Secret: The Pubic Coccyx
(PC) Muscle

The first and most important thing to learn is how to strengthen your pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle) or love muscle. This muscle is the major muscle of contraction in male and female orgasm. Strengthening the PC muscle helps to strengthen your erection and increase the sensations of your climax, which is very important in older years.

The PC muscle extends from the base of the spine, where it is connected to the coccyx, to the front of the body where it is connected to the pubic bone. Just as you can tense and release your fist or tense and release your shoulders, you can tense and release the PC muscle. This will exercise the muscle that can increase your and your partners pleasure.

Anyone can tense their fist. Try it now to give you the idea. Tense your fist and feel your biceps muscle tighten, then release – totally. Now see if you can tense and release the biceps muscle alone. Muscle isolation practice will help you to isolate the PC muscle.

It is the PC muscle you use to cut off urination. The next time you urinate, try to stop the flow in midstream to get a feeling of activating the PC muscle only. At first you may need to tighten the whole pelvic floor which includes the anus muscle and perhaps the lower abdominal muscles.

Some men may need to tense the whole upper body to pull up the PC muscle. See if you can locate the PC muscle. Flex it, even if your whole body tightens. Just as you isolated the muscle in the biceps from the fist, you can totally relax your upper body and still tense the pelvic floor.

Try it now as you are reading this. Your pelvic floor is tight, but the rest of your body is relaxed. As you practise this regularly and your PC muscle gets stronger, you will be able to distinguish it from the nearby muscles. In the earlier stages, do not concern yourself with this, just tighten and release all the muscles in this pelvic floor area, including the anus and buttocks. Continue to tighten and release several times.

Later in your own private space, while you are standing in front of a mirror, continually draw up and release this PC muscle as if you are holding back urination. You will notice that you can make the penis move up and down as you tighten and release this muscle. If you can do this, then you know you are exercising the right muscle.

Now that you have located the muscle you can start to strengthen it. Incorporate these simple exercises into your daily routine, associating them with a particular activity and independent of your lovemaking sessions. Then the exercises will become habitual and you won't have to set aside a special time to practise. For example, you can practise while you drive or travel to and from work and no one will know you are doing it.

Strengthening the PC muscle is one of the greatest lovemaking secrets a man can know.

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Originally posted by MatthewC

I've also had an attraction to tantra teachings and methods since a few years back after being unable to ever feel comfortable intimately with a woman. Now, I've only been with three women, including my wife, but when I was younger and freer, sex didn't seem to be a problem. As I got into my 20's I became more self-conscious about it, and then when I started meditating (just after getting married) and things just went from bad to worse with things usually ending much quicker than I had hoped This (prematurely ejaculating) became a serious issue for me though I am starting to release myself from the pyschological grip which plays big part in it. I did think meditating would have helped - I was doing it everyday for a few years - but looking back, meditating really stirred me up. Maybe I was too stirred up with too much energy moving round too chaotically.

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Finally, how has peoples' experience of sex changed through yoga and meditation. I'm beginning to think that all the energy movement that goes with them can stir things up so it seems like things are going backwards, and this could refer to not only sex but other areas of life. Obviously self pacing is the key here, and while I believed meditation was the greatest thing going, looking back I am wondering if I would have been better off beginning with becoming more attuned to my body through Asanas first. Of course, this isn't a regret, just an observation over the last couple of years.

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