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tshirt
Australia
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 Posted - Nov 17 2013 : 02:59:03 AM
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I however have a reverse situation.
I often mtb out of loneliness when I don't have a girlfriend. But when I have gf, I can have sex for long period of time. I practise Taoist sex methods. I can have sex with my girlfriend for 45 minutes and control myself so that I do not ejaculate. That means, I have have sex at least 2 - 3 times a day. First you need to start out with the 3-finger method to press your perineum (while you mtb) to block the passage so to say. You may experience after the 2nd day you may get blue balls, but bear with that, it will disappear the next morning. Then, as you get used to keeping your semen in your body for the 1st week, your body will get used to it. Then you can become desentisized and have sex easily and your level of control will be very very easy. The most important thing when having sex is to slow down your breathing, breathe from the belly, occassionally lock the breath in your belly. You do not have to use the finger method anymore once you pass 5 days of masturbation with finger lock technique.
So the rule is, the first 3 to 5 days are difficult, but once you pass it, you could conserve your semen and have sex for 1 month or 2 month with no problem. Your body vitality be high, especially the energy and fitness of your legs. But after maybe 2 months, you may hit a plateau and get a flatline, and you will want to release the stagnant fluid and energy.
Ok, most of my partners complain that I have sex for too long period. I can't believe it is the women who are complaining now about sex being "too long" :(
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Anthem
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Posted - Nov 17 2013 : 10:56:43 PM
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Originally posted by appolo light
Dear brothers and sisters,
I am cominng back to you to update and to seek!
The last year was intresting, my progress in overcoming the PE is very slow, sometimes i can manage better, sometimes, i have so much stress, that ones i didnot have erection!!!
The most inportant is that i realise my addiction, my inpalce to sex, to masturbation and trying to overcoming this, i reallise my emptinnes and especially my fears that i was trying to cover.
Married man , one child, always working and providing i forgott who am i.
What do i love to do, to eat , i forgott to have fun and the most inportant who to relax and enyoy. i think i have never learned.
My spiritial path guided my to trie to forrfeel my needs, not with sex but other thinks.
I am about to start to love myself and to love , really love, the others,
I am about to learne who to make love, and to have sex, how to feel the momment, to relax and connect with my wife.
I pray to God, to show my how to love,
-sould i follow my heart? litteraly my heart gives me signals like palpytation. When i have to take an action i have some resposnse like this. Sould I concidere this?
This is my question to you, how to love ?
how to open my self and feel free and give, no matter what!
How to forgive myself and these who mistreat me!
I wonder if i ll be able to make love, and not to live in my head with my fantacies, my fears and my neurosis.
Recently I felt in love. I felt in love with this small insect who make a specific, cri-cri, when the sun is seting and the night is folling.
This song, came all over me, my body and mind, it was so peacefull and so sweet,I wonder if it was God himself visiting me!.
Here is my story any input from you would be very much appreciated!!!
Forgive my poor english!
Thank you
Sounds like your concerns about PE and sex are leading you on a great journey of self discovery. Seems like you are getting to know yourself more intimately from your experiences.
When you ask if you should follow your heart, I personally don't know any other way to live. For me the heart is the only way to go, but it isn't to the temporary heart palpitations of fear or anger that I react to there. Those, from my point of view, are just the reactions to your experiences, though I feel it is important to hear them as well, since that is where learning is often hidden. As for what to act on? I personally listen to the true desires in my heart, and follow what I feel is right for me. This is the only way I know to be true to myself or my beingness.
How to love you ask, there is no instructions you can follow to love in my opinion, other than to remain open to the possibility of love arising.
This will probably be contrary to the AYP tantra point of view, but as for the PE that started your questions, I can only say that spiritual practices/ meditation for me made orgasm quickly accessible. As soon as i stopped these practices, there was less sensitivity and things returned to a more normal sensitivity level that I had known pre-practices. That said, when I was doing spiritual practices, I would simply release the excess energy by having orgasm (both ejaculatory and non ejaculatory depending on the day) before sexual intercourse to relax the sensitivity. Or perhaps do it twice if you are able? No doubt the second time would last longer? So the excess energy that spiritual practices brought could be managed that way. Just an idea.
So one possibility that seems to be arising for you is that you will struggle with PE prior to intercourse. Is there any other possibility that could happen? Have you ever at any point in your life had a different experience of not struggling? Has this other way of experiencing this situation occurred anytime even once in the last year or two? It is important to know there are other possibilities on how things can go. Keep in mind you created this experience, could you create another? In my experience, often as the fear dissipates, the path to another possibility becomes more clear.
Personally in situations like these, as hard as it can be, I prefer to get to know my fear. What outcome am I trying to avoid and why? What am I really afraid of, what is the truth of my heart's deeper motives? How is my fear serving me in this situation?
Just some ideas for you, best of luck in your self discovery. |
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appolo light
Greece
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Posted - Nov 20 2013 : 06:08:46 AM
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Dear Anthem, thank you so much for the response!
Yes, iam about to know myself, and to love myself and like this to love the others!!!
I feel that i can take my time calmly, to eat, to hear somebody, to work without an internal noise who made me always worried, without stress.
This is it, i fel more calm, not always,but i think the most of time of the day.
About fear, sometimes when my mind is empty and i have a feeling of wharmth in my heart,this days, PE didnot appear in the bedroom .
The last years with my wife you had a lot of fighting about a lot of things, this caused my PE, Before i had no issues.
No more fights.
I am visialising different realleties, like things going better and better, and i feel good about it, and i feel that like this, life is gona be better and ii improve more!
I keep doing meditation , yoga , i started pilates and i try to be kind to myself!
This is my path so far dear friends.
Wish you good, love, and light in your life |
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ineto20144
USA
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Posted - Jan 18 2014 : 10:37:20 PM
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Hello everyone!
Well... i'm starting with yoga and tantra practices, but it's really hard. I have PE and sometimes, i can come in seconds... it's a shame. I'm kind of lost with methods, what to do, what to practice, what to think.. i need help from someone who is already in this path.
Please, somebody help me? PM me for a talk, or something. I'm really lost, and i all know is: I want to control my ejaculation in a way to satisfy the love of my life and to grow spiritually.
Thanks. |
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appolo light
Greece
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Posted - Jan 20 2014 : 12:11:34 PM
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Welcome ineto,
first off all take it easy, relax do not stress, be patient.
For 2 1/2 years i deal with PE and now I see some progress,
I am not really an expert just I have the same issue with you!
Read with attention the previus posts, all of them they have smthik very intersting!!!
Get a routine of meditation, observe your thouts, whrite them down, excersise, life is very beautifull, live it, love it, do not panic as i did!
Meditatation helped me to relax and to accept, when i am relaxed i can detect the function of my body!
I would say that the control of your mind will control your ejac.
Hatha Teacher posted a lot of infos reade them again!
Relax brother, you are not alone!
In my path i had to build some selfconfidence on the way!
Spending time with myself, having fun and enjoing life on my own,
You want to satisfy the love of you life! This is good! Are you happy even alone?? I wasnt, I was to depended to others and not to myself.
This for me, is a spiritual trip to accept to love and to live fully my life, i repeat my life!!!
The other men of the community are much more specialist to give advises.
My friend, i wish you to be calm, patient full of love for yourself and the others!
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ineto20144
USA
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Posted - Jan 20 2014 : 9:43:22 PM
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Thanks... that means a lot for me.
Am i happy alone? I can't say that for sure. That's a good point :)
My practice is basically daily yoga and 20min of meditation in the morning and in the night... and of course, the tantric training every possible day. I hope it works :) |
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bruce007
Canada
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Posted - Apr 16 2014 : 03:33:18 AM
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Next time think of your father-in-law, when you are about to get to the climax, that should do it.
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Originally posted by dgunz11
Hello all,
This is my first post, however I have been practicing the AYP system for about a year now.
Practice is going well. Just been doing SBP and DM upwards of an hour and a half a day.
The results of the practice have been tremendous.
As a result I've stopped masturbation, pornography and the wife and I only have sex about once a week.
The problem is that I feel like I'm re-sensitized. In many ways I feel like a teenage boy again. I get worked up real easy and well I get to climax in a very short period of time. Sometimes it's literally a couple minutes. This is frustrating me and my wife and it's pretty much been like this for the past 6 months.
Oftentimes it's flat out embarrassing.
I've tried some of the tantric exercises on the website and they really haven't seemed to been working. Admittedly however I haven't really stuck with them.
I believe this is a result of not being desensitized to sex like most of us are in our society. The result of sexual moderation and no masturbation has left me really sensitive. Too much so, I think.
Just wondering if anyone has had similar issues and/or could offer any advice in terms of how I can control my ejaculation.
Namaste,
Dennis
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