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CarsonZi
Canada
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 Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 1:36:20 PM
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Namaste Friends....
Been dying to announce this since my wife and I found out, and can't hold it in any longer  .....we are "with child"! Hurray!
But with these new developments come new challenges (already). I know many of you have children already, and some of you have even gone through the whole birthing process, and I am hoping that you can load me up on advice
First off....pregnancy hormones. Any suggestions on ways to help my wife (just to clarify, I don't really consider her "mine") deal with the extreme mood fluxuations? She has a new tendency to straight up BALL over little to nothing. Even she is flabbergasted by it. But she can't seem to control it either. So far all I can think to do is help her see the irrationality of her thinking (which can be WAY crazy ) and show as much Love as possible....so far it is working to a point...that point being until the next thing comes up that triggers a response.
Secondly, I am hoping for some advice in terms of what I can do to help support my wife through the pregnancy. I have asked her, but she doesn't seem to know. At this point I am just trying to keep her from getting stressed, keep her well-fed and rested, and keep her decently exercised. So far physically she seems to be doing fine other then having to quit smoking (a very old habit for her) cold turkey and she is having some difficulties sleeping (it is uncomfortable for her to lay the way she likes to). Any suggestions would be great.
Third, I know it is a bit early to be preparing for this part, but anyone have any advice on raising kids? I have my own ideas, but none have had the chance to be able to be put to the test. Any advice on what you have noticed works (or doesn't) would be great.
Thank you and may you all feel even just a little bit of the joy I am feeling in becoming a Dad. d==b
Love,
Carson |
Edited by - CarsonZi on Oct 08 2009 12:55:11 PM |
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Yonatan
Israel
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Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 2:26:18 PM
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Congrats!!!!!!!!!
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Shanti
USA
4854 Posts |
Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 4:56:09 PM
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Congratulations to you and your wife Carson!! .....how to say this..........Carson, if you keep this up...I mean...if you make this into a full time job.......you are going to be a wreck by the end of her pregnancy  And that's when all your strength is needed. She is perfectly capable of taking good care of herself. She...and the baby....will survive stress just fine, will eat just fine (but yeah...get the shopping done...she'll appreciate that). When is the baby due?...(you don't have to say :)
But the exercise....yes...good for you! Get her out of that sofa
As for raising children....ah.....what can I say...I am far from an expert. Like I said to a friend the other day....we are good parents in spite of ourselves....not because of ourselves
Anyway....I know nothing.....but I am a mother of two beautiful daughters....who have taught me a lot about parenting. They taught me.......along the way. The only principles I have practiced (more or less successful depending on the level of awareness present here) are: Never be afraid to say that I was wrong, say "I am sorry" when I know I have been a knee-jerk. Never to demand respect...rather let that grow of itself. Really listen to what they have to say...they are awareness too. Take their problems seriously.....and come to their rescue when needed...but just as importantly....don't come to their rescue when this is keeping them in a negative loop. Be flexible.....and firm at the same time.
So....it is not that different from raising a dog....in that both dicipline and love is needed. (I have raised two dogs too)....rules are rules......security is found in a structure that allows freedom a space to grow in (that means....good routines are good for everybody).
But really....this comes later, yes?
For now....keep levelheaded (I just learned that expression from Sage).....And keep enjoying at the same time! BE there for her. That's enough. That's plenty Carson.
I am so happy for you!!!
Jiipii
PS Forgive me if I didn't let it shine through that it is your love for her and your child .....and all the joy in you....and a little overwhelm....that makes you think you have to do so many things now. I do understand Carson....it is what men do when they become pregnant....they ....what's the word...they "heard"...."hurd"...no...can't remember now...they become extreme caretakers...as if their wife...or the baby.... was made of porcelain or something......
Anyway...my ex put on 5 kilos in both our pregnancies *LoL*
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Katrine
Norway
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Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 5:51:01 PM
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YEah Shanti!
We cross posted
Good for you.....I was waiting for you to chip in here!
Am looking forward to reading your blog......congrats....this is a birth too
PS Just read it....great perspective on parenting Shanti. On life in general too. I'm so glad you're visible!! And may your blog prosper |
Edited by - Katrine on Oct 07 2009 6:34:56 PM |
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sagebrush
USA
292 Posts |
Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 7:04:40 PM
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Carson-
Congratulations! How exciting to have a wife and a pregnant one at that!
I was pregnant and it is a very unique journey I would imagine for each individual person.
My simple suggestion is the following: the best in prenatal vitamins!
Also, just reading your post sounds like to me you are ready to be supportive of her with what may show up along the way, and that you are excited about being a parent and concerned about her.
My son is now 8 and it has been quite a journey. I NEVER imagined being a parent and it was a complete WILD fluke getting pregnant.
For me, simply, even though it is a challenge being responsible for someone else, it has been an experience of alot of joy and genuine unconditional love.
Knowing that you are both in this together is teamwork!
Also just on the lighter side of things, I wanted to add this because of a posting below.
A male friend of mine was assuring me that delivering would be no problem. That my child would just come slipping right out with little pain.....my mother who gave birth naturally 7X asked him if he had ever sh*t a watermelon? Not intending to be rude- just funny!
Look forward to some stories and news along the way from you.
sage
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machart
USA
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Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 7:44:19 PM
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Congrats Carson!
The great thing about having kids (mine are 24 and 20) is they make you feel (and act) like a kid again...enjoy! |
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miguel
Spain
1197 Posts |
Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 9:02:00 PM
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| Congratulations Carsonziji! |
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Parallax
USA
348 Posts |
Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 9:43:42 PM
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Congrats Carson!
You'll be a great Dad...I've got 3 young ones of my own and they have been an amazing gift...my greatest teachers.
My advice during the pregnancy is to basically do whatever she asks you to do, no questions asked, no matter how irrational it may seem...but also know that no matter how hard you try you won't be able to "solve" everything for her (hormones, mood swings) but doing what you can, understanding, giving her space when she needs it and most of all lots of LOVE and everything will be great...the whole process from beginning to end is a MIRACLE!!!!
As to child rearing, I'm still trying to figure that one out, but my 2 cents is to shower them with love (which sometimes/frequently involves telling the "no"), completely accept them for who they are and the best thing to do is teach them by your example...and cherish every single moment b/c it goes by quick
And if you think you feel joy now, just wait til you're holding that little soul in your arms!!! |
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Anthem
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Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 9:47:59 PM
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| Congratulations Carson! |
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Parallax
USA
348 Posts |
Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 9:58:56 PM
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Originally posted by Shanti
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Originally posted by CarsonZi
Third, I know it is a bit early to be preparing for this part, but anyone have any advice on raising kids? I have my own ideas, but none have had the chance to be able to be put to the test. Any advice on what you have noticed works (or doesn't) would be great.
Well, I was not ready to put this out here as yet.. I did want to post some more before I told people about this... but here goes.. hopefully it will help.
http://i-me-and-mind.blogspot.com/
I had asked a few people to read it before I posted it.. and most liked it.. but there was one person who thought it was radical.. I think it is very possible to bring up children with real love.. all we need is an open mind and the willingness to see things in a different light. We need to raise conscious kids so the whole world can be enlightened.. like Yogani said.. http://www.aypsite.org/forum/topic....page=5#19135 quote:
Enlightenment will not be complete until all of humanity (and the entire cosmos) is self-aware in Oneness. A seemingly impossible task, yes? Nevertheless, Oneness cannot truly be Oneness until all have been brought home to That.
Shanti, just read your blog and LOVE it!! Congrats, glad you got it out there |
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Kirtanman
USA
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Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 10:16:51 PM
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Originally posted by CarsonZi
Namaste Friends....
Been dying to announce this since my wife and I found out, and can't hold it in any longer.....we are "with child"! Hurray!
Congratulations, Brother Carson!!
Awesome News!!
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But with these new developments come new challenges (already). I know many of you have children already, and some of you have even gone through the whole birthing process, and I am hoping that you can load me up on advice
"Duck!"
(I did it three times; I speak from experience ..... )
Seriously? No, not seriously ..... that would be terrible .... *Joyously* .... it's pretty simple:
When in doubt, LOVE.
When not in doubt, LOVE.
The rest is just details.
Really.
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First off....pregnancy hormones. Any suggestions on ways to help my wife (just to clarify, I don't really consider her "mine") deal with the extreme mood fluxuations?
"See above."
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She has a new tendency to straight up BALL over little to nothing. Even she is flabbergasted by it.
Er ... um .............. I'm *guessing* the term you are intending to use it the one usually referring to ... crying?
Usually spelled B-a-w-l?
As opposed to the slang term for "have sex"? (B-a-l-l)
Same advice applies in either case, of course ...... "see above".
(& not poking fun @ your spelling Brother Carson; I may be the only one doing a double-take at seeing the word "Ball" .... but, hey --- thought it {mildly} worth mentioning ...... )
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But she can't seem to control it either. So far all I can think to do is help her see the irrationality of her thinking (which can be WAY crazy) and show as much Love as possible....so far it is working to a point...that point being until the next thing comes up that triggers a response.
I'm still not 100% sure which one you mean ...... ... but sounds like you intuitively get the right response --- and I'm being (joyously) serious, here.
Pregnancy does involve hormonal shifts that males of the guy-like persuasion just can't understand --- and we don't need to.
(Giving) Love is always the answer; only an ego-idea could think otherwise.
I'm sure she's supported you through various things -- maybe a time or two??
Her part of the deal is to care for herself and your (shared) baby.
Your part of the deal is to care for her and your (shared) baby.
("The view from here", etc. etc.)
Very natural allocation of roles, I'd say .....
There's really not much else *to* do; giving Loving by being open and letting Loving inform the moment ("Let go and let God", as the saying goes .. ) will help make for a fundamentally joyous pregnancy, and contribute to the healthiest development of the kula (group, family, clan) that is now expanding in the form of another wonderful body-mind.
Any other way of being with it .... maybe not so much.
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Secondly, I am hoping for some advice in terms of what I can do to help support my wife through the pregnancy. I have asked her, but she doesn't seem to know.
Sometime each gender presumes the other must have some "secret special classes" (on how to be a woman/man, husband/father, wife/mother, etc.) - they don't. We don't. Every woman feels like all the *other* women know what to do (they don't); every guy feels like they're the only guy/father-to-be who's really unsure (they're not) --- it's the nature of the ego-mind to worry about stuff and doubt.
I will now share with you Kirtanman's non-patentable custom-intuited right-now process for Happiness in Every Moment:
1. Let Go, Let God.
2. Give Love.
3. When In Doubt, See Guidelines #1 & #2 above.
4. Repeat.
Hm? No ... there's no "until".
Just Repeat.
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At this point I am just trying to keep her from getting stressed, keep her well-fed and rested, and keep her decently exercised. So far physically she seems to be doing fine other then having to quit smoking (a very old habit for her) cold turkey and she is having some difficulties sleeping (it is uncomfortable for her to lay the way she likes to). Any suggestions would be great.
Yep - smoking's a tough one, but a "gotta do" (if you want a healthy baby) - I was a month early, and a couple pounds light (5.5 lbs @ birth), per my Mom's smoking. I've had two daughters who've had to do that, one of them twice -- and basically: maternal instinct beats even addiction, almost always ... but it's also not a "one slip equals problems", either; it's more: lowest possible blood-levels of nicotine are best, zero is ideal.
The "getting comfortable" thing is very individual; every woman deals with it, and "no one solution fits all" ..... on any given day, even -- especially per changes during pregnancy.
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Third, I know it is a bit early to be preparing for this part, but anyone have any advice on raising kids? I have my own ideas, but none have had the chance to be able to be put to the test. Any advice on what you have noticed works (or doesn't) would be great.
1. Let Go, Let God.
2. Give Love.
3. When In Doubt, See Guidelines #1 & #2 above.
4. Repeat.
& .. remember ... life knows what it's doing.
Ego/Thought-Me thinks this is "hard" - it isn't. It's actually natural.
That's why enlightenment is called "the natural state" - it's what's here when all the thinking-me's artificiality is dropped - all the doubt, any sense of conflict, etc. etc.
Just let awareness shine; don't let thoughts inform the moment -- let any answer/action, etc. come from silence.
Loving ... and enlightenment both boil down to the same thing ..... releasing attachment to form ... and living unbound in the resulting reality.
_/\_
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Thank you and may you all feel even just a little bit of the joy I am feeling in becoming a Dad. d==b
Love,
Carson
Oh, I do -- family -- love -- kula -- connection formed and expanded in actual loving -- is one of the greatest, most beautiful joys of this human experiencing.
And it's all truly so simple:
It's only about the loving.
Only always.
Intending You & Your Family Enlightenment/Loving/Joy - Wholeheartedly,
Kirtanman |
Edited by - Kirtanman on Oct 07 2009 10:21:04 PM |
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Akasha
421 Posts |
Posted - Oct 07 2009 : 11:35:59 PM
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This post is a little shorter.
Congratulations
I could'nt think of a better Dad based on the kind of person you come across as in your posts here. :+)
I've been through birthing here a few times also. I think i had the ayp equivalent of a casarean.
Well done Carson. You've come Auumm finally :+)
And that's a good Blog you've got Shanti-another birth-- very nice!
Not sure what else to add here.
Maybe later.
Over & Out.
Lots of love to All,
It is very nice to be heere with all of you, this warm open-hearted community full of so many kind & compassionate souls. I'm not sure if i've ever met a more genuine place- i think the practices and the loving spirit and ethos of this place speaks for itself.So kind and accommodating, so loving and forgiving.......Lost for words again!
Thank You Thank you
& Lots of Soul Hugs to everyone
Thanks for putting up with this foolhardy-ish cowboy,so blessed.
Infatuated with the divine loving of AYP. So lucky..
More Later
More Heart-Opening----More Loving...More Joyp
Might seem a bit weird to recount this but In a dream last night i was in this rough "spiritual" bar( this is the only way i can describe it..how it seemed) , but this time round ,i was strengthened by the presence of all you lot here knowing you were there.Your presence .Folk were trying to crush me but i had lot less fear , if any at all.Less perturbed by things going on....let's say.
I'd invite you all round for dinner- literal and spiritual -and have a virtual party...i think i would enjoy that
Akasha
p.s quote:
Third, I know it is a bit early to be preparing for this part, but anyone have any advice on raising kids?
follow you heart/intuition. let them be kids(make mistakes etc) you should be a natural. let it haapeen when it arises. be wary of transfering one's own neuroses onto one's kids.let them be free..food,education,opportunity etc
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christiane
Lebanon
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Posted - Oct 08 2009 : 01:15:40 AM
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Carson! again congratulations!
It's the beginning of a long trip full of intensity
on all levels..
I guess it's also a great way to feel deeply involved
and responsible.
I will probably never experience being a physical mother in this life, but motherhood has nothing to do with hormones right?
And you have it Carson! you are a mother to your child, your wife and
AYP friends.
The best way you can support your wife is: keep yourself centered, keep working on yourself, and just listen to her beyond the words, just
be a cocoon of love energy for her.
Much love to you, your wife and CarsonZi junior :) |
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Akasha
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Posted - Oct 08 2009 : 07:54:15 AM
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Hi Shanti,
Love your Blog,& Enjoy reading your posts here.I guess with a blog
too,looks like i am now rather over-spoiled
Re-birthing again, and again and again here.
Lots of Love,
Akasha |
Edited by - Akasha on Oct 08 2009 08:13:00 AM |
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CarsonZi
Canada
3189 Posts |
Posted - Oct 08 2009 : 10:51:48 AM
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Thank you everyone for all the Congratulations, Love and Advice. It's truly a blessing and an honor to be here with you all.
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@Yonatan
@Shanti
Wow....awesome blog start! You have put to words EXACTLY what my "plan" for raising kids is....you know, the one that "hasn't had a chance to be tested yet" I have bounced this idea off of a few people already (for example, my parents) and have recieved nothing but "That won't work....if we had done that with our kids they would be in jail by now" type of answers. Personally, I think if my parents had done that with me, I would have been a LOT less angry my whole life.....they think I would be in jail. Noone really knows though, it's all speculation. I plan on parenting as much along these lines as is possible. IMO Real Love is the purest motivator.
@Katrine
Thank you for such a wise, loving post. The "Loving" vibe spilling from your posts always warms my heart in a beautiful way.
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Carson, if you keep this up...I mean...if you make this into a full time job.......you are going to be a wreck by the end of her pregnancy
Hahaha....perhaps....but what "seems" to be happening here is an extreme increase in energy along with the "Fatherly Love" thing. I am sleeping (much) less, getting up much earlier to meditate and am going to work early to be home early so that I can cook dinner and such. Up until about 2 or 3 months ago, I never cooked dinner. I really really hate cooking. In the past I have always gone out for food if I have had to cook for myself. Now, I am making different meals every night, and actually looking forward to cooking! My how quickly things can change! Ever since we found out I have had this extreme change in attitude....not a conscious change, it just has happened. I have gone from caring more about "myself" and my spiritual evolution, to caring only about "the family unit" as a whole. I think that this is really pushing me to the "next level" of "self-less-ness". I have always been "concerned" with trying to help the whole of humanity spiritually evolve, but this developement has brought that down to a more micro level in some way....perhaps that makes me selfish...perhaps that is just a thought. But for whatever reason, I have become a different person....a more "caring for others" type of person....it's not all about "me" now. Even though before I would have said the same thing....it's just that the perspective has shifted a little now. can't really pinpoint how though.
(It's funny too....the shift started to happen before either of us knew we were pregnant....I was cooking dinner for at least 6 or 7 weeks before either of us even suspected....it's interesting how Life "times" things sometimes.....perfectly)
Oh yeah, about the "running out of energy" thing....(I kinda got carried away above and didn't really say what I had set out to say)...it's funny....it seems that the more energy I expend in trying to be "of service" to my wife and unborn child, the more energy I have....it's almost the same as when I was working at the Drop In Center....I would go to work all day, come home, meditate, go to work at the Drop In Centre (which is a very "draining" place for most) and come home energized....I'm having basically the same thing happening here now....it's like Life gave me the Drop In Center job as a "warm up" for right now. Again, funny how that works eh
About "needing to *do* stuff" for her....I definitely see what you are saying, and I hope I didn't come across as seeming like I "need" to be doing anything....I was more just asking if there is something I *should* be doing in order to help her deal with the hormones. I don't like to see anyone (especially not my wife) cry, so when I can't "help" the mind goes wild and thinks it must be doing something "wrong"....I see this for what it is, I just like to cover all my bases
@sage
Yeah, prenatal vitamins are a must for sure....those were one of the first things we bought after the pregnancy test hahaha. I have to remind her to take them mind you, but they are taken every day....I make sure of it
About the actual birthing process.....I don't want to talk about it Hahahaha....we'll cross that bridge when we get there.....All I can say right now is: "Thank God I am not a female!"
@Machart
Thank you for the Congrats.....
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The great thing about having kids (mine are 24 and 20) is they make you feel (and act) like a kid again...
Hopefully my kids don't make me act any more like a child then I already do! Kids raising kids Hahaha....
@Miguel
Thanks Brother
@Parallax
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I've got 3 young ones of my own and they have been an amazing gift...my greatest teachers.
Yes I can hardly wait..... I am already learning from the "bump" ....It's amazing what and who you can learn from when you are open to everything.
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My advice during the pregnancy is to basically do whatever she asks you to do, no questions asked, no matter how irrational it may seem...but also know that no matter how hard you try you won't be able to "solve" everything for her (hormones, mood swings) but doing what you can, understanding, giving her space when she needs it and most of all lots of LOVE and everything will be great...the whole process from beginning to end is a MIRACLE!!!!
Sounds like great advice, and a very similar approach to what I have been taking so far. I haven't found any "solution" to the crying/bitchiness/outbursts, but I have found that not "contracting" over them seems to allow them to pass quickly. Thank you for the sound advice Parallax.
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And if you think you feel joy now, just wait til you're holding that little soul in your arms!!!
Just thinking about it makes my heart want to split wide open
@Anthem11
Thank you
@Kirtanman
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Duck!
Are you saying to duck the punches or the flying baby? Kidding
So....I've been desperately reading your post looking for any kind of spelling grammatical error I can point out, and...nothing....jerk Sooooo kidding.....but yes, thank you for pointing out my spelling/grammar errors..... hahahaha. I will be more conscientious from now on Uh....I mean, uh..... I was talking about sex, not crying....I meant to use "ball" and not "bawl"
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(Giving) Love is always the answer; only an ego-idea could think otherwise.
Yes of course....the ego just thinks there should be more to do then there is....always making things more complicated then they need to be (or are).
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I'm sure she's supported you through various things -- maybe a time or two??
Hmmmm.....
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1. Let Go, Let God.
2. Give Love.
3. When In Doubt, See Guidelines #1 & #2 above.
4. Repeat.
That simple eh ....I think even *I* can do that
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it's also not a "one slip equals problems", either; it's more: lowest possible blood-levels of nicotine are best, zero is ideal.
Yes, I know, and I try to be tolerant to this....to a point. The first week or so she was using the nicorette inhaler, but she isn't using that (to my knowledge) anymore even.....she doesn't seem to be too bad over it....I think the joy of impending parenthood is a strong motivator. It was tough for the first little bit though.
Thank you for all the advice and support Kirtanman....your presence here is truly a blessing for me.
@Akasha
Thank you for the loving encouragement my friend....
Oh, and thanks for the virtual dinner
@Christiane
Thank you again for the congratulations.....
"A cocoon of Loving energy"....
I really like that....This is what I strive to be for her, the baby and humanity as a whole really.
Thank you for your Love and congratulations....may you be cocooned in Love
Thank you everyone for all the support and advice...I truly couldn't be luckier.
Love Always,
Carson |
Edited by - CarsonZi on Oct 08 2009 10:58:51 AM |
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cosmic
USA
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Posted - Oct 09 2009 : 12:39:01 AM
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Congratulations to you and your wife, Carson! You have a lot of love and wisdom to share with the little one. Much love and many blessings to your family
With Love
cosmic |
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Katrine
Norway
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Posted - Oct 09 2009 : 07:22:41 AM
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Hi Carson
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I have gone from caring more about "myself" and my spiritual evolution, to caring only about "the family unit" as a whole. I think that this is really pushing me to the "next level" of "self-less-ness". I have always been "concerned" with trying to help the whole of humanity spiritually evolve, but this developement has brought that down to a more micro level in some way....perhaps that makes me selfish...perhaps that is just a thought. But for whatever reason, I have become a different person....a more "caring for others" type of person....it's not all about "me" now.
That's great Carson
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Even though before I would have said the same thing....it's just that the perspective has shifted a little now. can't really pinpoint how though.
Well...what one says (thinks) and what one does......is not always the same, is it.....at least here it isn't
But life is such a wonder....all its problems and all its challenges included.....and...like you are... being intrumental in facilitating the awakening of humanity.....it is not really something one can do out of a mental strategy....... I have know idea at all how to do that...
Am in a fase of embroidering now *LOL*.....so...this reminds me...of that process.
When embroidering a mandala here... spontaneously....with nothing to go after...no pattern...no plan...only a theme (inspiration) in heart(from which the colours are chosen)......I start from the center of the white fabric . So you could say there is a selfishness in that. But this is where Self...the Creative principle.... is found too. And from the center.....the mandala grows of itself.....never knowing what it is going to turn into...only that it grows in freedom within the structure (the structure is as such helpful....without it....nothing could be contrasted).....and further inspiration happens in its own unfolding.
When it is finished....then the result has already happened....through every stitch...and every space.....manifesting more and more of the invisible potential.....that is always there from the beginning. Not all of it might be "pretty"....but that matters not....since it is the truth of what happened.
And then later.... "giving it away" in different ways will happen....into other creative circles....into other sharings......anything really...
So....your mandala is growing Carson
And this time with YOU in it.
In your baby too
One can only enjoy it as it already is
PS That's wonderful...the way you are taking care of your family :) |
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CarsonZi
Canada
3189 Posts |
Posted - Oct 09 2009 : 10:46:02 AM
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Hey cosmic, thank you for the kind words and congrats. I hope I can be half as good a Father as some seem to think I will be
Hey Katrine
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Originally posted by Katrine
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Even though before I would have said the same thing....it's just that the perspective has shifted a little now. can't really pinpoint how though.
Well...what one says (thinks) and what one does......is not always the same, is it.....at least here it isn't
Hahaha.....yes, so true.... I have tried to focus on NOT focussing on myself, but I have found that energy is energy.....whether positively focused or negatively focused it doesn't matter....putting energy into something is putting energy into something.....there is no real differentiation between "positive energy" and "negative energy"....it's all just energy.
I have (since I started AYP) made a habit of always dedicating my sadhana to "the benefit of all Beings", but that has really taken on a new meaning since finding out I will be a Dad. It means much more now then it did before....it is not just words now...now it is actually "felt".
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Originally posted by Katrine
Am in a fase of embroidering now *LOL*.....so...this reminds me...of that process.
When embroidering a mandala here... spontaneously....with nothing to go after...no pattern...no plan...only a theme (inspiration) in heart(from which the colours are chosen)......I start from the center of the white fabric . So you could say there is a selfishness in that. But this is where Self...the Creative principle.... is found too. And from the center.....the mandala grows of itself.....never knowing what it is going to turn into...only that it grows in freedom within the structure (the structure is as such helpful....without it....nothing could be contrasted).....and further inspiration happens in its own unfolding.
Wow....great metaphor! Life is truly like a blank "embroidering" canvas.....you never know exactly how it will turn out other then it will be perfect....with all it's flaws and all it's "uniqueness"...it will all be as it should be when all is said and done. Beautiful, thank you.
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Originally posted by Katrine
When it is finished....then the result has already happened....through every stitch...and every space.....manifesting more and more of the invisible potential.....that is always there from the beginning. Not all of it might be "pretty"....but that matters not....since it is the truth of what happened.
Absolutely.
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Originally posted by Katrine
And then later.... "giving it away" in different ways will happen....into other creative circles....into other sharings......anything really...
Doesn't do anyone any good to hold onto it.
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Originally posted by Katrine
So....your mandala is growing Carson
And this time with YOU in it.
In your baby too
One can only enjoy it as it already is
PS That's wonderful...the way you are taking care of your family :)
Thank you for the kind and pertinent advice Katrine....you truly are a blessing for All.
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