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fifa von bell
United Kingdom
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 Posted - May 08 2015 : 3:39:44 PM
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hello souls. I have only just started with Ady.(just reading his guidance)i'm stuck already....
please help,
I have been trying to forget something that happened to me.(trauma)
and last night i had a positive dream where i felt calm and present(not present enough to know it was a dream, but nevertheless, i felt more calm and the dream was pleasant enough to warm my being, which i understood to be a healing dream) i woke up feeling refreshed.
i want to ask you all, is forgiveness the same as forgetting? i want to forgive and forget so i can be at peace.
if i forget something, that i reacted to, am i, in essence, forgiving it, or just pushing it aside.
let me explain...
there is a scuffle, and i say'oh its ok, no worries' 'i know you had no bad intentions, its just a misunderstanding etc...'
but deep down i wonder if it is, because of a feeling that still lingers. ( said scuffle is gone now, the person in question has long gone, but i still have anger)
I have unconditional love toward this person, and realize behaviour is not the person and i am fine with that, but there is doubts, and i keep crying about it, wondering, if they had bad intentions.
if i forget, and imagine it never happened, it seems to help, but i wonder if this is the right way to go?
please help, i'm stuck
thanks.
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BlueRaincoat
United Kingdom
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Posted - May 08 2015 : 4:44:13 PM
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Hello Fifi
What is Ady? |
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jusmail
India
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Posted - May 08 2015 : 6:32:14 PM
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| Time will eventually heal the trauma. Your attitude is the right one. Take up deep meditation and eventually suppressed emotions rise and will clear the system. |
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Dogboy
USA
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Posted - May 08 2015 : 6:38:30 PM
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Hi Fifa, welcome,
Forgiving is an "offering up" of bad feelings that you experienced, a surrender of negativity so that you may lighten the weight of the feelings. Forgiving doesn't necessarily involve the other's intentions against you, it's more for your peace of mind. Forgiving is a powerful and noble tool for healing.
True forgetting may not be possible, but you can make an intention to not be harmed anymore by the incident or the person and to move forward. You may still love this person, and depending on the nature of this hurt, decide if this person deserves this love unconditionally. It is okay to install some distance in your heart from them if you have any doubts regarding their motives.
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jacquic
Australia
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Posted - May 10 2015 : 07:40:00 AM
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Hi fifi
'trying to forget' something sounds like avoiding the issue.
For me, profound spiritual shifts occurred when I stopped trying to avoid issues that I didn't want to think about or deal with. There were lots of things I had buried in there I didn't want to think about.
It all changed when I just stopped the avoidance, and said ok issue, I'm just going to sit here through you, and be present, see what comes up; allow the energy to move, shift, release.
When it is released, you are no longer carrying it around (that anger inside).
I don't believe you can force forgiveness when you are still holding on to something, like anger. I found that for the things I had been holding that I released, I gained insight and understanding about the situations, I became detached from them. A place of acceptance, perhaps.
All the best
Jacqui
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Charliedog
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Posted - May 10 2015 : 09:44:50 AM
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You received already valuable answers, besides these answers, what helped me was journaling. Writing down the traumatic issues that came up in my mind repeatedly.
For me this was the way to really let go.....
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