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T15 - Q&A Lustful pleasures
Date: Sat Mar 6, 2004 4:12pm
It is recommended you read from the beginning of this tantra yoga archive,
as previous lessons are prerequisite to this one. The first lesson is, "What
is tantra yoga?"
Q: I have always been very easily
corrupted and have allowed my form to be used in ways that are damaging to
my inner growth. Before I began reading your posts I had no reference nor a
concept of how to go about solving my dilemma. I've awakened the inner
teacher in myself and so many questions are readily answered for me... yet
this area has been the most difficult because in the past I have enjoyed my
sexual exploits and basically ignored the inner voice in these kinds of
situations, because weakness was greater than my desire to move ahead. I
understand that there is no condemnation, that I have the free will and that
I willingly chose lustful pleasures over the Higher Love pleasures. Having
said all that, thank you again, since I've begun with the exercises you've
shared, I've been able to see a change in my expression. There has begun to
be a true devotional loving and I think you call it ecstatic energy in my
body, from the base of my spine up to my heart and throat centers.
We know that lustful pleasures are intense but short-lived. As we move to a
more spiritual orientation with our sex, then we are cultivating long term
changes in our nervous system.
It may be difficult with a partner if
you are used to having his seed and your satisfaction right away. There
could be factors relating to relationships with members of the opposite sex
- a subconscious need to sexually exploit or be exploited. Yoga
practices will eventually get to the bottom of these karmic influences and
release them. That is sexual healing, as discussed in an earlier lesson.
In cases where working with a partner in tantric sexual relations is
difficult due to strong lustful habits, it might be beneficial to work alone
for a while, establishing a good routine of "right-handed" practices --
meditation, spinal breathing, mulabandha, siddhasana, and so on. There can
be good stimulation of sexual energy for yoga in sitting practices. Solo
masturbation could also be explored in tantric mode, if you are already
inclined toward it. In that case, when you masturbate, see if you can
develop a habit of staying in front of orgasm using the solo version of the
holdback method. With all this, in time, your desire for lustful pleasure
will lose some of its luster. That is because the inner spiritual pleasure
will be coming up more and more, and it is very satisfying, not just for the
moment, but ongoing day and night.
A strong libido is actually a
great advantage in spiritual practices, assuming you can bring some
discipline to your stimulative practices. That is really the key. Passion
with a purpose, you know. You will know you are making progress when you can
just be aroused without having to go to climax. It takes time. Siddhasana is
a great practice for cultivating that mode of constant stimulation without
expectations. The "bucking bronco" of siddhasana will settle down
eventually. Then you will find ecstatic bliss trickling up and down all
through you. Lustful pleasures will seem a small thing then, and will slip
from consciousness during yogic sexual stimulation, and in regular daily
activity as well.
Gradually, you will begin to view men differently.
Then you will be able to engage with a partner, if you choose, without it
being in exploiter or exploited mode. If it is still either one of these,
then consider working some more on your own until you can invite someone
into your bed with enough divine love to be there for him more than
yourself. It will happen if you persist in your practices. You will attract
men of higher spiritual quality too. Or maybe you will move beyond sex with
a partner altogether. It all depends on your inclinations. It all depends on
where your bhakti (divine desire) leads you.
The guru is in you.
detailed instructions on the methods of tantra in relation to the broad
scope of yoga practices and the enlightenment process,
see the AYP Tantra book,
and AYP Plus.
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