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On Self-Defense and Forgiveness (Audio)
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393.1 - Samyama and Self-Defense (Audio)
393.2 - Employing
Kundalini in Martial Arts (Audio)
April 16, 2010
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Q: I wanted to ask a critical question. What happens if someone hurts you in
a very bad way? What do we have to do in those situations? Do we have to let
it pass, and trust in karma, and trust that the offender will harvest what
he sowed? If we retaliate and vindicate, will this give the person who takes
vengeance a bad karma and annihilate his spiritual progress? Or is it okay
to do so, take vengeance for whatever wrong has been done to us in those
situations, bringing the scale back in balance? Understanding this would
mean a lot to me.
A: Self-defense is appropriate in many cases,
and in the ideal situation it will produce a positive karmic outcome, where
all involved will move forward spiritually.
Revenge is not
self-defense. It is aggression, and will lead to complications. It all
depends on our spiritual condition. We will act as we must, according to our
awareness. The trick is to expand our awareness, which will elevate all of
our actions to a higher level of morality.
In truth, no one is
injured, for ultimately we are beyond events occurring in time and space. We
are pure bliss consciousness. As we advance in practices and on our path, we
find this as direct experience, and act accordingly.
On the other
hand, current perception is 100% of our reality, and we must live from where
we are. In that case, some common sense can help keep us out of the ditch
paying attention to the basic precepts of yama (restraints) and niyama
(observances), and to the laws of the land wherever we are living. It is
certain that acting with personal intent to injure others will injure us,
just as breaking the law of the land will lead to unwanted consequences in
life. So it makes sense to keep this in mind.
If someone is harming
you, it is reasonable to protect yourself, and take steps to prevent repeat
injury from the same source in the future. However, it is not in your best
interest to attempt to injure the other for revenge. That kind of "justice"
is fleeting, and will only lead to further cycles of injury to you and
Prudent self-defense and forgiveness make good partners. "I
love you and forgive you, but will not permit you to do that" is the way to
handle those who are prone to inflict injury on others. It may mean exiting
a relationship altogether, with no hard feelings.
Actions performed on that basis are not personal. They are divine flow. But
we may find anger mixed in, so it is good to pause to consider the
consequences of our actions before moving ahead.
Moderation is the
prudent course, but no one is required to be a doormat. We have a choice,
and the high road is always available to us. Increasing moral conduct and
the ability to forgive (let go)
are symptoms of
rising inner silence resulting from deep meditation.
These actions then become extensions of our spiritual practice,
moving from inner silence outward. So too is asking forgiveness and making
amends for injuries we have caused to others.
We will be
able to forgive ourselves, which is the first step in forgiving others.
These things occur naturally as inner silence comes to reside in
us, as we come to know ourselves to be an expression of
This coincides with a transformation of the expression of
our karma to an ecstatic balancing of all things in our life, and no longer
can anyone or anything harm us. Before then, we will be wise to pay
attention to the codes of conduct that exist in our spiritual tradition and
culture. They are there for a reason, to protect us from our wavering
humanity, until we have grown up spiritually. And we
shall. It is written in the stars, and in our DNA.
The most important thing is to keep meditating daily. Then stillness in
action is being cultivated into our life, ever flowing and ever untouched.
This is the ultimate form of self-defense, and includes our ability to
forgive and make amends from the deepest level within us. Then these choices
become easy, because we will know through direct perception what is the high
road and what is not. We can feel it strongly in our heart, and in our
bones. No one will have to tell us. Inner guidance in stillness
far-surpasses all outside guidance, because it is in our inner nature to
know the truth, to live the truth. So cultivate
abiding inner silence and see
answers come from within.
Choose your course wisely, practice daily,
The guru is in you.
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